Everything is Upside Down

We just had the pleasure of having a couple of out-of-town friends stay with us and had some interesting conversations during their visit.  We all agreed that things just ain’t the way they used to be.  No surprise there, of course.

As we talked about different topics, we kept saying, “when did this become acceptable?”

For example, none of us could understand when, how or why women covered with tattoos became the norm.  We had just been at a water park and couldn’t believe how many women (let’s not talk about the men) had tattoos.  I said I could understand tattoos on servicemen.  Our visiting friend, who had been in the Navy, never got one.  We tried to figure out in what decade tattoos became acceptable for women and none of us could figure it out.  We all agreed that we’ve never yet seen one tattoo on a woman that we would consider art or beautiful.

Aside from tattoos, so many things, that were once unacceptable in society, have now become ordinary and no longer eye-popping or embarrassing.

Kobe Bryant, even after his criminal and civil lawsuit fiasco in Colorado a few years back, continues to make mucho bucks as a basketball player and the darling of LA sports fans.  (If I were Empress of the World, he would’ve been booted off the team and shamed into oblivion.)  Instead, his ugly mug used to be the face people saw on the “Welcome to Los Angeles” billboard at LAX.  It always made me want to take the up escalator back to the gate and go home.

There was a time when we used to count the months after someone got married and the time they gave birth to see if the requisite nine months had passed.  Now, out-of-wedlock births are on the rise.  It seems the little ditty, “first comes love, then comes marriage, then comes Mary with the baby carriage” was forgotten.  Now Mary is walking down the street with the baby carriage without marriage and usually without the love part.  Another one of our friends referred to these children as “souvenirs.”

Straight people don’t want to get married; gay people want to get married.

Woody Allen continues to be the darling of Hollywoodwith celebrities banging down his door to star in one of his films.  At least his own son thinks he’s a dirt-bag.  Well, maybe he didn’t use those words but his son did make the following comment about Father’s Day. “Happy father’s day — or as they call it in my family, happy brother-in-law’s day.”

Convicted child rapist, Roman Polanski, who I’ve written about in the past, is still able to make films and continues to be lauded by Hollywood and was actually given the Best Director award for The Pianist.  Big name stars like Jodi Foster have no problem starring in his movies.  How can that be?

So, now society thinks nothing about the future of  illegitimate children, continues to pay big bucks to see despicable sports figures do their thing ignoring their disgraceful behavior and has no problem with child rapists and those that marry their stepdaughters.  And you really wonder why my head is spinning?

Where we once followed our own paths attempting to achieve the American Dream by going to school, working hard, getting married, having children, providing for our families, buying our first home and asking nothing from the government, we now have millions of people receiving some type of government assistance.

Far too many people are unwilling to do what’s necessary to make it on their own.  Our leaders would rather maintain their power by doling out taxpayer money to just about anyone with their hand out.  We now vilify people those who have “made it” on their own, by hard work and persistence.  These are the qualities of the people who made our Nation the best in the world, rugged individualism and personal responsibility.

So, what was once unacceptable behavior has become the norm.  What was once the behavior that was expected of each and every young person has now become a thing of the past.

I don’t get it, but if you do, God bless you.

Author Bio:

For over twenty years, Leona has tried to heed her husband’s advice, “you don’t have to say everything you think.” She’s failed miserably. Licensed to practice law in California and Washington, she works exclusively in the area of child abuse and neglect. She considers herself a news junkie and writes about people and events on her website, “I Don’t Get It,” which she describes as the “musings of an almost 60-year old conservative woman on political, social and cultural life in America.” It’s not her intention to offend anyone who “gets it.” She just doesn’t. Originally from Brooklyn, and later Los Angeles, she now lives with her husband, Michael, on a beautiful island in the Pacific Northwest, which she describes as a bastion of liberalism.
Author website: http://www.idontgetit.us
  • Chief98110

    Much of society’s tolerance is really apathy and fear. I commute daily
    on public transportation and have to listen to people’s most private
    conversations on their cell phone at full volume. I will routinely see
    other commuters grimace at the loud conversation but not say a word. Too
    many of us just don’t want to pay attention or get involved.

  • Genann59

    With you on that Mrs Salazar. I apparently was in a coma for 10-20 years without being aware of it and nothing is like it was when I went into that coma. I joined the Army in 1967 to get the money to finish college. Went I went in the dress codes at both the high school I had attended and the junior college I had been graduated from dictated skirts that had to reach the ground when they made you kneel down.  When I got out of the Army in 1972 and had to go by my former high school to get transcripts for college, there were girls in SHORT shorts and halter tops. While I was in the Army from 1967-Jan 1972 the rest of the world changed massively and not for the better, and it has been straight downhill since. The fellow students at college and even graduate levels were more and more ignorant, I don’t know what happened, but America today is not the America I knew before I joined the Army in 1967. I sure wish she could go back, not in everything, but for God’s sake just in morality and common decency.

  • Jim Kirkpatrick

    Maybe you are just stuck in the mud

  • Count_E_Limerick

    At LAX, Leona stays defiant,
    Bristling at the picture of Kobe Bryant.
    Not feeling that pink,
    About ladies’ tat ink,
    Or either Woody or Roman as film giant.

  • GlenFS

    Leona, great piece!  I appreciate the beauty of women and have never understood their wanting to deface this gift of God.  It does not look good when they’re young and looks terrible as they age.

    • Genann59

       Glen – when my mother and I saw the trend we used to half way joke about what these people are going to look like in old folks homes when the skin starts sagging and the tattoos aren’t going to look like they do not.  So many things have changed and not for the better.  JESUS come on back and get us out of this.

  • BurtPrelutsky

    An excellent piece, Leona.  I particularly appreciated the line describing the offspring of unwed mothers as souvenirs.  Knowing me, I suspect I will be borrowing it in the near future.  It won’t be stealing because I promise to return it.


    • LeonaSalazar

      Borrow all you like, Burt!

  • Ron F.

    As far as I know, Kobe Bryant was not convicted of anything.  As for the others mentioned, I agree.  Nevertheless, we now find out celebrities in the past had the same types of problems bt they were not pubicized.  I disagree that our “leaders would rather maintain their power by doling out taxpayer money to just about anyone with their hand out” and that we “now vilify people those who have `made it’ on their own, by hard work and persistence”.  Some leaders may want to dole out taxpayer money but I do not know what their motivation is  although most politicians do want to get reelected.  Maybe they think they are doing God’s work.  Are Republicans in Congress doing what they think is right or just carrying the water for their supporters.  Didn’t Democrats accuse Dick Cheney of supporing the war for personal gain and opponents of President Obama as being racist.  That is why I am more concerned about politicians acts then trying to figure out motivations.  And the fact that some politicians want to tax people who have made it on their own does not mean that they villify them.  In fact, look at the esteem in which business leaders like Bill Gates and Steve Jobs are held.  Finally, I agree with Roger, there has always been disgust with what is perceived as the decline in moral values.

  • Roger Ward

    Cicero said “O tempora!  O mores!” (Oh, the times!  Oh, the morals!) a couple of thousand years ago, so I guess contemporary disgust with the decline of civilization and things in general are not a new phenomenon …. but it still doesn’t make the tattooed ladies or the foolish worship of sports/media figures or the unmarried and pregnant girls we see every day any easier to take.  O tempora!  O mores!