Tamera Mowry Is Not Alone

This made my heart ache and my blood pressure spike: Actress Tamera Mowry, who is black, wept in an interview with Oprah Winfrey over the vile bigotry she has encountered because of her marriage to Fox News reporter Adam Housley, who is white. Misogynist haters called Mowry a sellout and a "white man’s whore." International news outlets labeled the Internet epithets she endured "horrific" and "shocking."

Horrific? Yes. Shocking? Not at all. What Mowry experienced is just a small taste of what the intolerance mob dishes out against people "of color" who love, think and live the "wrong" way. I’ve grown so used to it that I often forget how hurtful it can be. Mowry’s candor was moving and admirable. It’s also a valuable teachable moment about how dehumanizing it can be to work in the public eye. Have we really sunk to this?

Young actresses in the 21st century forced to defend their love lives because their marital choices are politically incorrect? We’re leaning backward in the regressive Age of Hope and Change.

Let’s face it: Mowry’s sin, in the view of her feckless detractors, is not merely that she married outside her race. It’s also that she is so open about her love for a white man who — gasp! — works for reviled Fox News. Neither of them is political, but the mere association with Bad Things (Fox, conservatives, capitalism, the tea party, Christian activism, traditional values) is an invitation for unabashed hate.

The dirty open secret is that a certain category of public figures has been routinely mocked, savaged and reviled for being partners in interracial marriages or part of loving interracial families (for a refresher, see the video clip of MSNBC host Melissa Harris-Perry and friends cackling at the holiday photo of Mitt Romney holding his black adopted grandson in his lap).

And the dirty double standard is that selectively compassionate journalists and pundits have routinely looked the other way — or participate directly in heaping on the hate.

Have you forgotten? Supreme Court Justice Clarence Thomas was excoriated by black liberals for being married to wife Virginia, who happens to be white. The critics weren’t anonymous trolls on the Internet. They worked for major media outlets and institutions of higher learning. USA Today columnist Barbara Reynolds slammed Thomas and his wife for their colorblind union: "It may sound bigoted; well, this is a bigoted world and why can’t black people be allowed a little Archie Bunker mentality? … Here’s a man who’s going to decide crucial issues for the country and he has already said no to blacks; he has already said if he can’t paint himself white he’ll think white and marry a white woman."

Howard University’s Afro-American Studies Chair Russell Adams accused Thomas of racism against all blacks for falling in love with someone outside his race. "His marrying a white woman is a sign of his rejection of the black community," Adams told The Washington Post. "Great justices have had community roots that served as a basis for understanding the Constitution. Clarence’s lack of a sense of community makes his nomination troubling."

California state Senate Democrat Diane Watson taunted former University of California regent Ward Connerly after a public hearing, spitting: "He’s married a white woman. He wants to be white. He wants a colorless society. He has no ethnic pride. He doesn’t want to be black."

Mowry is not alone. The Thomases and the Connerlys are not alone. Poisonous attempts to shame are an old, endless schoolyard game played by bullies who never grow up and can’t stand other people’s happiness or success.

Time doesn’t lessen the vitriol or hostility. Take it from someone who knows. "Oriental Auntie-Tom," "yellow woman doing the white man’s job," "white man’s puppet," "Manila whore" and "Subic Bay bar girl" are just a few of the printable slurs I’ve amassed over the past quarter-century. You wouldn’t believe how many Neanderthals still think they can break you by sneering "me love you long time" or "holla for a dolla." My IQ, free will, skin color, eye shape, productivity, sincerity, maiden name and integrity have all been ridiculed or questioned because I happen to be a minority conservative woman happily married to a white man and the mother of two interracial children who see Mom and Dad — not Brown Mom and White Dad.

Mowry’s got the right attitude. She wiped away her tears and told Oprah that haters wouldn’t drag her down. Brava. Live, laugh, think and love without regrets. It’s the best revenge and the most effective antidote to crab-in-the-bucket syndrome.

Michelle Malkin is the author of "Culture of Corruption: Obama and his Team of Tax Cheats, Crooks and Cronies" (Regnery 2010). Her e-mail address is malkinblog@gmail.com.


  • kayakbob

    It just another example of the one-way street known as liberalism. I acknowledge that a few of my friends that call themselves “liberal” are indeed kind, gracious people, and I can’t imagine them doing anything remotely like what is described in this article and in some of the reader comments. BUT, then there are other self described liberal acquaintances (NOT friends) that I have witnessed do pretty much the same thing as was done to Ward Connerly in this article.

    I find it ironic, the people that I know (in real life) that have SEEN do such things are not those ‘hateful, bigoted, conservatives”. It is the “tolerant, fair and open minded, and proudly self described ‘liberals’ “.

  • D Parri

    Michelle, you should know–more acutely than most–that character transcends color, and the true beauty of a person is found within them…not in their external appearance.

    You are a beautiful woman and have no need to listen to or repeat the disgusting epithets than ignorant people will be known by as their only claim to what amounts to no fame whatsoever.

    It is truly saddening to hear about these instances, but keep your eyes focused upon the greater target and show others the example that you would have them follow in becoming the person who will be respected for their character…and be admired for who they are–not how they appear.

  • Gratefulconservative

    This is what the progressives have progressed to. I would bet it’s Fox News who is really the target of these left wing hyprocrites.

  • Josh

    The vile schmucks spewing their hatred at people oftentimes come across, at least to me, like people who simply have hate in their hearts and ultimately hate what’s acceptable to hate. They’re not strong-willed enough to be the bullies; they’re more like that pipsqueak hiding behind the bully and taunting the victim to stay on the bully’s good side. Wagon riders, not trendsetters. And that says a lot to me about their character and how pitiful they find their own lives.

    Although a lot of these mainstream bully wannabes would probably be quick to blast someone as a racist or homophobe, they don’t seem to realize that they are the racists and homophobes. They’re the same type of people who hate whatever’s acceptable to hate — who hated the people the mainstream once found it acceptable to hate. It’s taboo to spew venom at X and Y, so they simply move on to Z. If Z becomes taboo and X and/or Y loses protection, then that’s what they’d target. It’s predictable; they’re predictable. And pathetic.

    • Tam

      Very well put. I recall a time ( I still do personally), when mixed marriages were considered a sign of great progress and harmony. A lefty I work with asked me why enjoy going to Florida in the winter. He was of the opinion it was a racist hotbed. I told him Americans in the south are very pleasant and he was in fact buying into a stereo type. I pointed out they are not that racist going by the large number of mixed race couples I see there. THEN he expressed his negative opinion of mixed couples. Very revealing and surprising to me. When did this change? When did social segregation (as opposed to employment and such), become something favoured by the left?

      • Josh

        Living in VA, and being very familiar with quite a few southern states, I find it’s always an issue with nearly every non-southerner I encounter that they believe the south to be this treasure trove of racism and bigotry and hatred of all things different (read: all things non-white, non-Christian). Though having been to NY, NJ, Ohio, Penn and other non-southern locales, I’m confident in my opinion that the south can’t hold a candle to the intolerance rearing its ugly head in the places progressives feel are more liberal and thus more kind.

        I’m a member of the skeptic community, which means, unfortunately, I’m surrounded by unabashed progressive blowhards. Many simply don’t understand that their intolerance toward the religious, Republicans/conservatives, etc., even exists. And they don’t seem to get the picture because, to them, it’s acceptable–damn near mandatory–to despise certain types of people. They don’t realize their own hypocrisy; they don’t grasp the irony.

        The way I view it, they hate on so-and-so for the same reason they get their coffee from Starbucks and not a cheaper, better location. It’s trendy. It’s what their friends do. It’s what the group does. And when another locale trends, they’ll follow it without question and be led by their gonads to any destination or target under the sun.

        These progressives aren’t alone in this regard; they’re just receiving an alarming amount of leeway where others aren’t.

        What the left favors and what it doesn’t confuses me often enough. But whatever’s decided by the politicians, pundits and paid advocates, the masses will follow like a lost puppy.

        The Tamera Mowrys and Michelle Malkins of the world just need to hang in there. Things will eventually trend in a different direction, and the mindless minions will find another shiny object to curse at.

  • RickonhisHarleyJohnson

    ‘bullies who never grow up’ says it all, Michelle. We have a huge segment of our culture that has not grown up and, I fear, never will; or only will when it’s too late.

  • sjangers

    I’m sure there are more serious things to be concerned about in these circumstances, including the very real harm being done to people whose choices don’t conform to the current political correctness, but what really stands out for me is the hypocrisy of the left. You don’t have to go back too many years to find liberals outraged by critics of interracial couples or people aspiring beyond their ‘place’, heaping all sorts of abuse on people who disapprove of individuals who chose to follow their dreams or their heart, irrespective of how the rest of society may view their choices. Today it’s more often the sensitive souls on the left who attack those who don’t conform to their view of the appropriate role of racial, ethnic, gender, or lifestyle ‘minorities’ in our society. It tells you all you really need to know about the sincerity and true motivation of many ‘liberal’ thinkers.

  • gold7406

    conservatives are not surprised.the left are liberal in the abstract. the left speaks out of both sides routinely. [we’re watching out for the little guy, as they gorge themselves through legal insider trading] we saw what happened with stacy dash two years ago.
    the left is guilty of the worse invidious sanction.

  • tarmac 492

    These kind of taunts and reasoning are something you would expect from a day drinker in a dingy bar, six deep on the whiskey sours, not from prominent public figures and politicians. It is shameful behavior.