The ACLU Shuts Down Father-Daughter Dances

Fathers can no longer take their daughters to father-daughter school dances in the state of Rhode Island. A law suit brought by the American Civil Liberties Union put the kibosh on such time-honored, festive events.

It seems that a mother complained to the ACLU because there was no father in the house to take her daughter to a father-daughter dance at her school in the town of Cranston. Therefore her daughter was being discriminated against.

The ACLU put the screws to the local school board, contending  that father-daughter dances violated Rhode Island’s gender-discrimination laws, and the school board caved. Now nobody can go to father-daughter dances.
I am waiting for someone to tell me how this helps the girl whose mother started the ruckus. Does her mother take pleasure in the fact that she has spoiled the fun for everyone else in the community?

The ACLU used to be a great organization, back in the days when it specialized in cases that were politically incorrect. In one of its landmark cases, for example, it successfully defended an American Nazi propagandist who published materials that the government wanted to suppress.

Now the ACLU has come full circle, and is itself the very model of political correctness. Look at this excerpt from an arrogant statement it released in connection with the Rhode Island case:

“…in the 21st Century, public schools have no business fostering the notion that girls prefer to go to formal dances while boys prefer baseball games. This type of gender stereotyping only perpetuates outdated notions of ‘girl’ and ‘boy’ activities and is contrary to federal law… the time has long since passed for public school resources to encourage stereotyping from the days of Ozzie and Harriet. Not every girl today is interested in growing up to be Cinderella — not even in Cranston. In fact, one of them might make a great major league baseball player someday.”

Doesn’t it seem that this little statement contains a fair amount of what the legal folks call obiter dicta – gratuitous comments that range beyond the essential points of a legal case?  The high and mighty ACLU knows best how the rest of us should think and act, and is more than eager to impart its wisdom to the tobaccy-spittin’, moonshine slurpin’, hog-wallowin’ yokels of Cranston, RI.

I know some militant feminists who talk exactly like that ACLU statement, so I am going to hazard the guess that the statement was, in fact, crafted by a militant feminist.

It appears that the ACLU has become the very same dragon that it used to bravely go out and slay.

So what now?

If I want to take my girlfriend out dining and dancing, must I take her brothers as well? I know that it would be difficult even for the ACLU to make a case that would force me to do so, but wouldn’t they force me if they could?

What if the brothers happen to be playing sandlot baseball or touch football, and turn down my invitation? Should I rebuke them for their stereotyped, sexist behavior?

What if I decide to take my son to a major league soccer game?  Must I take my daughters as well? What if my daughters  say no, they don’t know the first thing about soccer and would rather hang out with their boyfriends? Should I ground them? Disinherit them? After all, they are being anti-social in the eyes of the ACLU.

Maybe we could hammer out a compromise with the ACLU, getting them to let us have father-daughter dances if we also will promote father-son dances and mother-daughter dances. I don’t know, I fear that someone at the ACLU might catch on to the fact that all these dances exclude people who do not have either children or parents.

Maybe the ACLU can rope some elderly bachelor into filing a suit that will eliminate dancing entirely.

Author Bio:

Arthur Louis spent more than forty years as a print journalist, with the Philadelphia Inquirer, McGraw-Hill, Fortune magazine and the San Francisco Chronicle, but he is not asking for sympathy. He is the author of two non-fiction books: The Tycoons, and Journalism and Other Atrocities, as well as a novel, The Little Champ. In retirement, he has decided unilaterally that he is a profound political pundit.
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  • wally

    I agree.

  • Ed

    Should I bring up the L word? Nah.

  • Ice Cold Troll

    Honest to God, do these dishrags have no shame? WTF next then, ban Fathers’ Day?

    • Artlouis

       By their reasoning, that might seem appropriate.

    • CCNV

      Mother’s have “Mother’s Day” in May, and “Mother’s Day” the first of every month for those on perpetual welfare. It makes sense that father’s have another day set aside in addition to the one in June. How about “Yo, Ho. I be da Baby Daddy” day?

      • Ice Cold Troll

        I don’t think the racial innuendo is either wanted or appropriate.

  • Kate

    Just an anecdote from my real life: In 1961, when I was 10 and my father was 49, he was diagnosed with Hodgkin’s Disease. In those days, we had “Mothers’ Teas” and “Dads’ Nights Out”. When the evening arrived for “Dads’ Night Out” my father was too ill to attend. My parents arranged for an elderly neighbor to accompany me to school that night, to show him my desk and books and papers. I don’t think anybody filed a lawsuit. I don’t think anyone felt discriminated against because Life dealt them a lousy hand. Families just coped with these issues in their day-to-day lives without fanfare. It’s only today, after reading this stupidity, that I realize how courageous my parents were, to simply work out the problem with a simple solution. My Dad died two years later. I remember him with great love and admiration.

    • Artlouis

      Thanks for your comment. It seems that the Puritans have returned. 

  • Ron F

    Isn’t the problem the School District and not the ACLU.  The School District did not need to settle with the ACLU.  In addition, the dances might have violated the Rhode Island laws.  The Superintendant of Schools said in a letter that the district’s hands were tied: Although federal gender-discrimination laws exempt such events, Rhode Island’s law does not.  I would assume that the Superintendant had a legal opinion before making the statement.

    • Artlouis

      You make good points, but my own opinion is that the ACLU should have butted out.

      • Ron F

        It doesn’t bother me what the ACLU does because the Courts or in this case the School District can say no.  And it seems to me that if the law prohibits the dances, it is up to the people of Rhode Island to elect people to its legislature that will overturn the law.

        • Artlouis

           Can’t really argue with that. Still, I think that the ACLU’s role in this was despicable, and that was the point of the article. That statement they issued makes my skin crawl.

          • Ron F.

            I agree about the statement.  For that reason alone, I disagree with the ACLU’s position.

  • Donnaeturner

    Can’t we tar and feather a few of these PC jerks?  I think that would straighten out all this mean -spirited bullying once and for all.

    • Artlouis

       Tarring and feathering seems to have gone out of style, but it would be worth a try.

    • Wheels55

      Tar and feather – are you kidding? What about those people who have allergies from feathers? Please be more considerate.

      • Ice Cold Troll


  • venter

    What a shame to cancel the  father and daughter dance because one girl doesn’t have a  father this is another stupid dumb decision.   What a  wonderful opportunity for that mother to show her daughter that she is loved  by a grandfather,  uncle, great grandfather, male family friend or neithbor who would be honored to take her to this dance.   (Does the ACLU remember Hillary said it takes a village?)  This mother is not helping her daughter  be strong and deal with life.  The ACLU should  stop making people weak especially this mother.
    No salt, no sugar, no 32 oz. drinks , no fast food, no peanut butter and jelly, no using the word illegal, on and on and on to—” no father/ daughter dances.

    • Artlouis

       Good points. Someone asked why the ACLU can’t find time to represent the maker of that anti-Muslim video. They also should consider representing restaurants who want to sell what people want to buy.

  • Wheels55

    Let’s just do away with Fathers Day while we are at it. That way, these poor fatherless kids won’t have to cry because they don’t have someone to make a card and a plaster hand print for. Or maybe these whining mothers can just be better parents.

    • Artlouis

       Nicely put.

  • ron

    I live in RI, and I have to say this doesn’t surprise me.  Last year in the same city, a prayer banner was removed from the high school because one person complained.  There really is no end to the stupidity of both of these decisions.  The next time you hear about RI, it will be for a statewide ban on peanut butter in all schools.  This is in the works right now by the same group of people 

  • Tom E

    I am waiting for the ACLU to defend the maker of the video that has the Muslim world inflamed according to the White House.  After all “freedom of speech” is the ACLU reason for existence.  Some how I think they will decide it is too politically hot or maybe they don’t a local office blown up.

    • Artlouis

       Yes, I have heard others raise the same excellent point.

  • Deny916

    This is really sad in a way.  Just because ONE single mother complained they stop the father/daughter dances for EVERY ONE.  Couldn’t this woman have asked her brother(if she has one), a family friend, another relative to take her daughter?  Instead she has to kill the family thing for everyone.  If I was the school I would change the name of the event to the FD Dance and carry on as if they were normal.  What is this world coming to? 

    The ACLU has long out lived its usefulness.  Shouldn’t they be doing things that have a REAL meaning instead of stuff like THIS?????

    • Artlouis

      Deny, so true, sadly.

  • CCNV

    Shame on all these people involved! Some of my fondest memories are of spending time with my Dad. My Dad was a mechanic. Every Saturday morning I’d go to the junkyard with him. We’d walk through the lot and occasionally I’d hop in a junk car, find some S&H green stamps in the glove box and take them home to Mom. (Dad didn’t know it, or maybe he did, but I really went along for an Orange Nehi.)

    • Artlouis

       Sounds like you had some great good-old-days.

    • Wheels55

      Parents create the best childhood memories.

  • Artlouis

    It occurs to me that some of you may have read my satirical pieces here.

    This one, I am sorry to say, is absolutely true.